This is not one for the kiddo’s folks, today we’re taking about Sex. It IS really important and good though, and you are very likely to feel better afterwards! Today we talk a little about Ari’s new book, “ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship”. We then discuss: The Neurotypical+ADHD relationship, Meds & Sex, Does our ADHD make us extra kinky, Why don’t we ever talk about Sex & ADHD at the same time, Communication habits, and Ari gives us lots of great advice. Enjoy!
A little more about our guest today:
Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST is a psychologist, certified sex therapist, international speaker, and author of four books on ADHD, including his newest, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship which helps couples with one ADHD partner improve their sexual and relationship satisfaction. He has appeared on CNN, National Public Radio, and XM Radio and been quoted in The New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, The Boston Globe, USnews.com, The Daily Mail (UK) and many other media outlets. He is a former board member and current conference committee co-chair for CHADD, the national ADHD advocacy organization. You can find more information about his books and upcoming and recorded presentations at adultADHDbook.com
In this episode Peter & Ari discuss:
0:57- Intro & welcome Ari! Get his new book here!
1:30- If you are not already familiar CHADD.org is a great resource for all things ADHD!
1:55- So Ari, what does ADHD have to do with sex?
3:25- Why do you think people don’t think, or maybe just don’t talk about how ADHD affects their sex lives?
6:00- Do you think the ADHD promotes a higher level of experimentation/kinkiness?
7:54- Talk about sex and communication differences/barriers in the “Neurotypical + ADHD” partnership?
10:57- On communication and circumstances in the relationship
12:54- Let’s talk about meds, stimulants and their effects on a sex life
14:55- On how stimulants are perhaps most effective
16:38- It takes two
18:20- What advice would you give to the partner with ADHD who is trying to make things better in a relationship?
20:47- Ari’s book is “ADHD After Dark You can find it at www.AdultADHDBook.com
21:00- Thank you Ari!! And thank YOU for subscribing, reviewing and listening. Your reviews are working! Even if you’ve reviewed us before, would you please write even a short one for this episode? Each review that you post helps to ensure that word will continue to spread, and that we will all be able to reach & help more people! You can always reach me via peter@shankman.com or @petershankman on all of the socials. You can also find us at @FasterThanNormal on all of the socials.
21:27- Faster Than Normal Podcast info & credits
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